Response to My goodness by Nisi Shawl

http://theangryblackwoman.com/2009/06/08/my-goodness/
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This article is her introduction. She talks about her babysitter when she was a little kid and about art and making choices and believing them to be the right ones. Nisi is amazing.

"And this is when my outrage starts to change, when I begin to cook my anger, to season it and control its temperature. My babysitter says, “Do you think that sheet cares what you’ve done to it? All you’ve done is hurt yourself.” She’s right. Anger alone accomplishes next to nothing. To change the world, anger needs art." -Nisi Shawl.

"They’re your choices, and they’re right. With this self-assurance, or soon after it has been achieved, comes the longing to share these choices with others, and out of this longing it is possible to develop the ability to do exactly that. And then the world can become different." -Nisi Shawl

I suggest you go to her site and read her blogs. She has some very intense blogs and really powerful ones. She knows how to express her feelings with powerful words and it all just makes you go "wow". She's my inspiration.

Michael Jackson 1958-2009

A whole bunch of people seem all depressed and sad and mad by this sudden news. I know of a few exceptions. Okay.. who says "thats what he gets for bleaching himself!" in a room full of Michael Jackson fans?? I wouldn't want to be her. But then again, I'd have to say that was the funniest thing I've ever heard! What can I say? I have a weird sense of humor. :)

Relationships

It seems like just yesterday we were laughing and having the time of our lives. Before I knew it we were trying to avoid each other. Our conversations turned into awkward arguments. We both walked away from each other angered. What could have possibly gone wrong? Was it because of me? Or was it something he did? I tried to make it right again but it seemed like everything I did wasn’t good enough for him. So with that I eventually gave up on his childish behavior and went on with my life. He was my best friend and I always thought he’d be there for me. I’ve lost plenty of friends but he was one I was sure I could always talk to.

The first time I noticed this behavior was after the one day we didn’t talk to each other. The next day he started to act differently. His behavior was cold towards me. Everything he said sounded like he didn’t care at all about what I had to say or what was going on in my life. He didn’t talk to me unless I said something to him. No laughs, no smiles, nothing. I just thought he wasn’t feeling well and wasn’t in the mood for conversation so I gave him his space.

Every day his behavior got colder and colder. That’s when I realized it wasn’t because he wasn’t feeling well; he was doing it on purpose. His lack of communication and one word answers to my questions irritated me so I decided to confront him about it. Determined to find out what the problem was I kept asking him what was wrong and eventually he told me. The problem was I wasn’t communicating as much as he wanted me to. My answers to his questions were mostly “never mind” and “forget it”. He was pretty much just giving me a taste of my own medicine. The thing he said that hit me the most was, “The more you don’t communicate, the colder I’ll seem.” It left me speechless.

After that day we barely talked to each other. I knew that if I didn’t say anything to him, he would never talk to me again. Everything he told me before in the past all seemed like lies after lies. I thought hard through all his promises and asked him if he still meant them. Of course he said yes but I didn’t buy it. Not this time.

I guess if your best friend never told you anything anymore you’d be pretty annoyed with them too. But two wrongs don’t make a right. The key to a healthy relationship is communication. If there’s a problem in the relationship you should try to communicate and make it better. Bringing up the past and letting it effect the present wouldn’t be the best cookie in the cookie jar. It’s called the past for a reason; don’t let it affect your future. I believe relationships are important and shouldn’t end for the wrong reasons.